To let go or not.. THAT is the question !!

Some of us think holding on to something makes us strong but many times it's letting go that makes one even more stronger...

I have been in many situations and sometimes with a few people where there was a dire need to 'let go' .. But I still held on... Maybe with the hope that it will get better oneday; maybe I believed letting go will be more painful; maybe I didn't want anything to change; or maybe..just maybe things will be normal again... But most times things only got worse.

Why do we do that? Why do we hold on MUCH longer than we need to? Why do we feel the need to hold on SO tight that we become oblivious to the pain it is causing? Why do we find it tough to let go?

It's not just about relationships, it could be about a job that might be making you miserable;  it could be about you pushing someone to do something against their will; it also could be a feeling of intense hatred for something or someone.... Have you ever thought of HOW MUCH time and energy this is sucking out of you???

I have asked this question to myself a couple of times in life and most times a little introspection makes me realize that I almost ALWAYS knew when to let go, but I just took time to accept it. To me, it's always been the fight between the mind and the heart. The mind says, you have tried enough, move on....... But the heart says, just a little longer, just a little harder.

So now, I try until it feels right; I try until It ain't hurting more than it should and the minute I feel like its hurting more than it should, I let go. Sometimes I still feel like I might have benefitted from holding on a wee bit longer but in most cases I am glad I let go when I did,  coz this gave me mental and emotional space to do and accept lot more.

So next time you are wondering, when did life get so complicated and you are trying hard to remember the last time you were totally at peace with yourself......YOU have held on wayy too long.....  be it a job or a relationship.... just LETGO.. It will hurt but the peace that follows is a force to be reckoned with. Sometimes, letting go might even get you what you have wanted all this while..

ps - I am not saying "run" at the sight of trouble, its important to try to resolve conflicts, but it's also important to know that you have your running gear ready, IF you do need it!!!