Diminishing line?

As a kid, I had a very clear opinion about right and wrong... Life was simple and straight. I knew the right thing was to obey my elders and leave all the thinking to them. I knew boys were trouble, drinking would kill me, smoking was banned & sex was just plain dirty and should not be spoken about, seen or heard. (no, I didnt grow up with nuns..)

And then I grew up a little and the line between right and wrong started to blur. I wasn't so sure if ALL boys were trouble; drinking socially seemed acceptable; holding a cigarette in the hand looked stylish and the idea of sex wasn't so frowned upon anymore. How did this shift happen? How does something so wrong, suddenly become 'not so wrong' anymore? Did I change or did the world around me change?

And then I grew up some more and boys became friends, confidants, lovers… a tremendous shift from being the “bad” ones. Drinking was not just acceptable but I spent money to get a bar at home; smoking which seemed ok as a teenager isnt all that ok anymore.. and sex is a dinner table conversation with friends. The line b/w right and wrong diminished some more..

I started making my own rules about right and wrong. I didn't wanna let the world tell me what I should and shouldn't do. I did what I thought was right and I didn’t do what felt wrong… the only rule was that I should be happy and no one else should be deliberately hurt due to my actions. I also learnt that what might be right to me, might be wrong to someone else and I am no one to judge or preach. Neither am I going to spend time worrying about it or changing myself to suit others wimps and fancies.

So Now I do whatever makes me happy and keeps me guilt free. I don't try to explain my actions, coz the ones who care, understand..... and the ones who question or criticize aren't worth spending energy on.

So, next time someone tells you what you are doing is wrong.. analyze to see if it feels wrong to YOU.. if it doesn’t, respectfully agree to disagree and continue to do what feels right to you. Coz ultimately, the results of the deeds, good or bad, has to be dealt by YOU…