Words after “when”…
Buddha said, “There is no path to happiness; Happiness is the path..”
I look around and everyone is on the quest to “find” happiness, either through their work or relationships or something else. I also am a traveller on the same journey, to find happiness, through something or someone.
I remember the first time I felt truly happy. It was a bright sunny day and I was an energetic 4 year old playing on the street and bossing around little boys from our neighbourhood :) and my mom came home with a beautiful doll. Pink cheeks, long blonde hair and oh so beautiful. That doll served me many happy days and I still have that doll somewhere in my attic.
What I didn’t realise then, was that doll was my first step into the long dark hole of “I am happy when…” syndrome. My journey down the hole continued and the only things that changed were the words that came after “when”. A new watch, clothes, a boyfriend, a new car and the list continues. And without even knowing, I had become a long standing victim of the “I am happy when..” Syndrome.
Is that really true happiness? Can I only be happy when the words after “when” are fulfilled?
I even tried attaching my happiness to my relationships and expecting my partner to “make” me happy. How could he, when I myself didn’t know how to make me happy?
They say, one can never find happiness outside, if they arent truly happy inside. No doll or car or partner can make one truly happy, if they havent felt happiness within, even when there is nothing specific to be happy about. Sounds a little weird to just be happy for no reason, isn’t it?
Turns out, it isn’t :)
Words after “when” happiness is momentary and goes away as quickly as it comes. So, while it is ok to seek out new things, they should probably not be the means to ones happiness
Being grateful might be the first step towards finding happiness within. Maybe writing a gratitude journal every morning or I pause ever so often during the day to say thank you to things that I have taken for granted. Like the food I eat or the help who keeps my home clean or the tree in my front yard that is bringing in cool breeze.
I also mediate and go inwards as many times as I can. Accepting “what is”, takes away our constant quest for “what it needs to be”
And most importantly, I walk away from people and situations that lower my vibration. I owe it to myself to surround myself with the energy that works for me
Has all of this reduced my words after “when” ? Not really, however, being aware of it makes me not feel bad when the happiness dwindles. And continued mindfulness might help reduce the long list of words after “when”
So, here is to “being” happy rather than “finding” happiness..
“Happiness is an inside job. Don’t assign anyone else that much power over your life”
Buddha said, “There is no path to happiness; Happiness is the path..”
I look around and everyone is on the quest to “find” happiness, either through their work or relationships or something else. I also am a traveller on the same journey, to find happiness, through something or someone.
I remember the first time I felt truly happy. It was a bright sunny day and I was an energetic 4 year old playing on the street and bossing around little boys from our neighbourhood :) and my mom came home with a beautiful doll. Pink cheeks, long blonde hair and oh so beautiful. That doll served me many happy days and I still have that doll somewhere in my attic.
What I didn’t realise then, was that doll was my first step into the long dark hole of “I am happy when…” syndrome. My journey down the hole continued and the only things that changed were the words that came after “when”. A new watch, clothes, a boyfriend, a new car and the list continues. And without even knowing, I had become a long standing victim of the “I am happy when..” Syndrome.
Is that really true happiness? Can I only be happy when the words after “when” are fulfilled?
I even tried attaching my happiness to my relationships and expecting my partner to “make” me happy. How could he, when I myself didn’t know how to make me happy?
They say, one can never find happiness outside, if they arent truly happy inside. No doll or car or partner can make one truly happy, if they havent felt happiness within, even when there is nothing specific to be happy about. Sounds a little weird to just be happy for no reason, isn’t it?
Turns out, it isn’t :)
Words after “when” happiness is momentary and goes away as quickly as it comes. So, while it is ok to seek out new things, they should probably not be the means to ones happiness
Being grateful might be the first step towards finding happiness within. Maybe writing a gratitude journal every morning or I pause ever so often during the day to say thank you to things that I have taken for granted. Like the food I eat or the help who keeps my home clean or the tree in my front yard that is bringing in cool breeze.
I also mediate and go inwards as many times as I can. Accepting “what is”, takes away our constant quest for “what it needs to be”
And most importantly, I walk away from people and situations that lower my vibration. I owe it to myself to surround myself with the energy that works for me
Has all of this reduced my words after “when” ? Not really, however, being aware of it makes me not feel bad when the happiness dwindles. And continued mindfulness might help reduce the long list of words after “when”
So, here is to “being” happy rather than “finding” happiness..
“Happiness is an inside job. Don’t assign anyone else that much power over your life”
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